Happy birthday, bro! 31.12

oya before I forget and get carried away with my new year thingy.

Would like to wish my bro, Happy Birthday!

 

Countdown to New year 2022

It has been awhile since we met after sending Junhe off back to her hometown in China.

Managed to meet up for a lunch before the year ends.

And this year a slight difference..

With an addition of a gf for heyin.

Our new member Weizhen!

Good time spend tgt at Sakae and starbucks.

And Rong had registered her marriage to Mr Yan her husband earlier.

Being the first to be officially married!

Time rly flies..

It had been 11 years knowing ea other since poly days

We normally seldom chat..but still make the effort to meetup fr a meal one or 2 time a year.

Guess that's wat make our friendship a lil special n different from others.

Normally after grad if we dun talk much..

Even if one of us dun have to the heart to keep or maintain this friendship bond..

We would have lost contact long ago and don't bother to even meet to catch up wif ea other.

But we actually do cherish n make effort to keep in contact for 11 yrs..

When we even were nt tat close in poly days ahahah

Had a really good meal at Sakae in bishan..

It has been so long since I went to bishan junction 8 ahahah

And then we walk over to Starbuck outside of junction 8 to chill..

And videocall with our dear junhe who went back china few mths ago

Nth Abt her style changes except her much rounder face than before.

Asked her to diet with me before cny reaches and we start to binge in food ahahah

 Video call last fr Abt an hour..

Wif my phone batt dying before we ended our call.

We keep on pestering junhe to invite us to her home to have steamboat soon..

After this SHN thing lax for trip to China.

Lastly, before ending.

Had to make some comment for 2021 before the year ends in 3 hrs time.

2021

Nt much of a major changes to me

Except that I grew mre mature n stable in my work n my position in my company.

2.5 years for the first time in my life with a company.

Make me think Abit different in the way I do things.

No longer work with the mindset of..

Aiya anyhow do this job ba..anyway next month my contract end liao/I am resigning liao.. none of my business

Grew Abit braver in the way I converse with different colleagues through the new engagement projects I handled this year.

My managers also giving me alot mre chance to attends n present meetings.

And a lil promotion to end my year on a gd note.

Had a major job scope change this June. From a hr generalist to only doing recruitment now.

Had a hard time adjusting to this and handing over payroll matters to the other hr team and taking over recruitment frm that team.

Busying with diff projects and moving of company at yr end.

In terms of personal life nt much changes.

No love.

No new friends.

Jus playing ard wif my same grp of friends, eating gd food, quarreling wif fam, watching drama, jamming on kpop music, fangirling.

Personal cal is still the same as 2020.

I dun expect much changes in 2022 as well.

Only work wise will have changes to my mindset I guess.

2021 , 辛苦了。

2022, 

I personally really like even numbers.

Hope only good things will happen in the year of 2022.

Hope I can go overseas to countries without the need to serve SHN.

Hope I can get the salary I dreamed for to get my hse.

Hope I will be braver n mre independent myself.

明年也要再接再厉哦！

Merry Christmas 2021

Another Christmas arrived!

Second Christmas that I had to spend in Singapore reluctantly due to covid.

But all my colleagues made it a better time for me.

December is a month I really like thorough the whole year.

Year end give me a feeling that..

Ok great cal u had been running for so long already.

Now can relax Abit.

And winter is the season I like most and it so miracle falls in December.

I like the cold,sad, emo, white, lonely vibes that December, winter and Christmas gives me.

Rly a pity that I had to be force to stay in SG.

Really hope next year I can spend it wif my friends overseas.

Also along wif all the great and thoughtful gifts that my colleagues and managers gifted me this Christmas.

I had actually received another bigger gift this Christmas already.

My first promotion and salary adjustments in my working life.

Did expect that after 2 years I will get promoted as both of my seniors also get pay increment after 2 yrs in this company.

But cos it is way past July the promotion and appraisal period so tot is like mayb covid..then company hit by recession.

Then suddenly last WK get called in by my manager and pass me a letter of my promotion.

In the midst of me busying up and down packing things to our new office.

So really it came as a surprise to me.

And also the increment jump was even higher than both of my seniors in the past.

I had not found the time yet to disclose this news to my mum and bro.

Cos I was too bz this 2 wks.

I am gg to find a gd time to surprise my mum tml. Lol!!

Really think I am rly old liao..

Had actually grad frm being a student..

Grad from my contract and part time jobs

And becoming a full time working adult.

Really hope I can earn mre money to buy my first own flat in 6years time!

Hwaiting!!

 

Happy Birthday FMH

 

Another year of birthday celebrated together.

The last baby of every year in our clique.

No surprises no cake no candles no special activities

Just a simple dinner after we all end work for the day.

Actually wanted to tell her only me is free for the dinner.

But everything ended as quickly as we had planned it.

And the restaurant we dined is a rly shorthanded staff wif a fine dining concept.

We reach 1930 and after all dishes out and we finished it ...already 10pm..lol

Though their service is slow.

But at least we can get a cosy place to chat throughout the nite.

The food was nice and to my liking.

Price wise I think is quite cheap.

But my friends felt the other ways to mine though

Mayb my budget was tag along wif my mood for the day and whether the food is to my liking.

Anyway..first time we met on a normal wkday to dinner.

And tml I still need work at office kind..

This week..

Nono actually from last WK..

I am already everyday going back to office to work..

Then this week office moving dates suddenly become 1 mth earlier..

So I need to fulfil my workload deadlines as well as packing deadlines.

Labor intensive..

Though I didn't say much...but I rly almost slept wif my eye open during the dinner and on our way back home.

I reached home 11.30pm..

And I need wakeup at 5am the nex day to go office..

Really is only for my close friends then I will go out dinner till so late on a normal weekday.

But anyway..

Happy birthday my dear semb friend!

Another quarrel with dad

This time round is getting Abit heated and action packed..

All started with a staycation booking.

Done everything for him

Booking, paying.

And told him the details price n check in days.

And he keep insist fr me to show him the confirmation email.

And must be tonight.

Wat the f**k!

Keep pestering me and shouting..

When my temper came straight up and out

Open my room door and scream back.

Already done everything for you nice nice, u jus need to go.

Things also no need you pack. Mum packing.

And told u everything.

What else u want.

U think I  will cheat you meh.

Cheat n lie to you got money meh.

Somemre u not paying for the hotel at the end of the day.

And keep insist I showhim black n white email.

Then I told him tml la. The stayca is mth end.

He die die keep say must tdy. If nt he nt free

Today to 31dec..dun tell me he nt free and wunt see until me la.

CEO and govt also not as bz as him.

Jus 1 mere bus driver.

The whole household most free is him..

Everyday wall up and down the hse finding ppl to talk and to quarrel..

Say he bz..

Want to make who laugh? 

He bz , everyone already die of exhaustion long ago..

Then I told him, u can not free tml, then I cannot not free today meh.

Then shouting here and there shoving slamming doors and open and shout again..

Hitting him all along one-sided ly..

To relief the build up anger and tension in me.

And also wanted him to hit me..so that I can call police and be separated from him fr at least few days..

And everything ended as fast as it started.

And I threw my phone and hurt my right hand..

Hope to see large n darker bruise tml..

So that I can take photo and remember this glorious battle day I had finally.

Rly cannot tahan living with him any longer .

To people, home is place where ppl relax n recharge..

But for me...

There is no home to start with ever since I grew up with sane thoughts.

If I rent home now...I won't ever had the money to buy my new home.

Bt if I save now. I can only buy a home for myself in 6 years time.

Dilemma.

Advance Advance Birthday Present

Today is just another Sunday

With my brother and wife coming to stay over at home.

Or this is what I tot..

Then suddenly my brother called me into his room and round the corner was this big big present on the floor.

And my brother was saying this is for my advance bdae gift..

I am like what?

U dun bluff bluff

Confirm is people give you things then u dun want and then give me is it?

Cause he is a very very petty person 

And calculative guy

And somemre my birthday was still rly rly far.

2mths and 5days more

Lol!

Seeing the size..

Actually I can sort of like guess what is it..

But I jus can't believe my brother will buy that fr me..

Opened the wrapping paper and saw a laptop bag and a box..

Didn't want to get my hopes up..

As long long ago, my friends did prank me with a ipad box and inside is a sanitary pad.

But really really is a laptop after opening everything

Jaw drop

Acer laptop.

My bro n wife say is black Friday sales so they decide to buy it earlier for my bdae

As my laptop screen had a black hole which is getting bigger..

And seeing that I have company laptop so I rly is no plans to buy new one.

Was saying to my fam..nex yr then buy bah..

I use till my now laptop spoilt first..

Cos laptop is nt as if few hundred bucks will suffice..

So rly teared up once agn..

But this time round is tears of happiness..

The most ex gift I ever received in my life..

Irony thing is his bdae is 1 mth more to reach. 

And I jus msg to ask him what he wants 2 days ago. And he say will think about it and tell me..

Then after his bdae still got our dad birthday..

But I am alr getting present in advance lol!

 

Happy wedding 20november

Happy Marriage to my another longtime friend!

8 years of dating till now..

Though I dunno how much they had gone through all these years,

Rly not easy!

Hope they will be happy and stay tgt as best partners till they grow old

Wmzyj was the name fmh came up with after we all grad from secondary 4...

This deepens our thoughts of continuing our friendship even though we graduate.

We did drift apart sometime in poly when we are all separated in diff study environment and location.

Upon knowing more friends by ourself and broadening our knowledge at the same time

But really glad we still put in the effort to meet up at the very least during ea of our birthdays

Everyone changes as time goes by

We are the same

We became more mature and more responsible.

As the adult life outside is so much different and harsher than when we were all in school

And all we need to care about is to excel /pass our exams and tests

I can't say we are much happier now or if we are changing in a better way.

But no matter good or bad.

At least good to see we are all living n managing well currently in our own life

Wmzyj us and will always be only 5 members.

Now 3 are married and 1 is dating

Though I am the only one single.

But that's what I chose to be.

So I am happy we are all living wat we want ourselves to be.

Even though I hate marriage and doesn't believe in love in real life.

I still wish in my heart the 4 of u will be happy wherever you are in whatever you are doing in future.

Really happy we can temporarily go back and behave in the way we were back in secondary school whenever we meet up

As this makes me feel happy there is still someone who share the same memories as me and my childhood is not a lie.

I can go back to be the carefree 13 yr old kid.

No need care Abt image or whatever

Seriously I am still believing that after all of you started your family with kids.

We will definitely lost contact.

As you will each be busy about your kids n housework n husband.

Our life will be so much different and talking topic will be so different like a pair of parallel line.

So rly cherish the times we have till now

 Please be all be happy.

I believe I will be or at least try to be happy myself till the day I leave this world alone.

As this world is too beautiful to live in..

Though the world is filled with 80% evil nasty people and only 20% good and kind people

Hope to visit 

 To see with my eyes

To experience with my mind and body

More places in this beautiful world

Before my time is up.

And if there is rly a second life.

I hope I will become wind

No need wrry Abt wat to eat, breathe or make a living

Just feeling freedom while floating around the world 

August to November hair

Went to bugis white salon and had above hair cut and hair colour back in August

And went Harts salon yesterday to change hair colour and new haircut.

Both cost $300++

Both location at bugis

One is female hairstylist more

One is all males stylists

Comparing colouring both salons are good

But hair cut and styling I prefer whitesalon

But I feel mre comfortable with female hairstylist...

Shall go more salons famous online in Singapore to try both price I am ok

Haircut n styling I like

Hair colour I like

And salon hairstylist environment that I am comfortable with going alone

Sure I will be able to find one one day

Really wished to run back to white salon to find my hair stylist to help me cut back my hair nice nice lol!!

 

Truth hurts at times

Finally understand the beauty and convenience of white lies

It is there to prevent anyone getting hurt.

But how long can it last.

Truth hurts at times at the moment

But I rather be hurt then be lied to.

Human beings are emotionally vastly different beings.

However, it is ok to be jus a pathetic being reigned by emotions for it is what that makes us unique in a different way.

We can get hurt and cry all we want.

We can get angry and rant all we want.

We can be happy and laugh all we want.

We can be our own self healed being.

We are not alone.

Everyone is facing the same thing as well.

Hwaiting!

Hotel Royal Day

Today is my personal healing time at a hotel again

This time round at Hotel Royal.

Makeup completed contacts len on..

But I frgt to comb my hair before I left home lol

I was on cab and using my phone when I suddenly remembered

Oh shit 

Forget my hair once again..

My 3 course meal included for the day.

Total cost for the day  $100. For half day 

Quite affordable.. esp when I can avoid my dad at home.

The staff at the restaurant was very nice n friendly serving me food and answering my queries and request

Thankful

Counter staff was Abit old  and slow and speak singlish and service Abit localised which is Abit of a minus marks of the hotel..

As they are suppose to be the representative of the hotel.

Makes this feels like a motel.

Condition of the rm is clean and spacious.

Except no bottled water provided in room

However every level there is a water dispenser along corridor.

And luckily my room is jus beside the dispenser no unesscessary walking required.

Spend quality lone healing time there.

Before I will experience a hellious day tml

With 4interview arranged jus in the morning

No tgif.

Bt nex wkk I am wfh..

Pheww

 

My favorite time of the year

 

My favorite time of the year had arrive once again.

Year end!

October is coming to an end.

With November coming, it is jus 2 mre mths before 2021 comes to an end..

And before the year ends..

It will welcome my fave season and holiday of the year..

Christmas!!

Really like the atmosphere the weather of December

For all my life I am living in an all year long summer country..

Really like cold weather..

I also like snowboarding, sled on snow..

Aigoo..

Seems like travel nex year without the need to serve any SHN for 2wks seems to be coming true finally!

Finally!

Hope I can go for sky diving and snowboarding again..

Eating ice cream in my Airbnb while watching the snow falling outside my window and the ground covered with thick white snow.

So prettyyyy..

How to stop a conversation

I believe everyone will have times when they just want to be alone and not talk.

Or you might just wanted to stop talking to someone 

Or want that someone to stop talking to you.

And what is really the most effective method to do so.

Let me teach you.

There is just only 1 way and having 1 attitude towards that person in that situation.

Just say a one word to everything he says. Ya..yes..ok..really..

And best if that 1 word is in agreement to whatever he says. So he cannot continue the conversation. Like asking u why not. Why u not feeling or thinking the same thing as him.

And let's say u agree with what he says.

The next thing he will possibly say to keep the comvo going will be why he think that way. And you can still answer him yes meaning u having same thinking as him.

So no need to continue the Convo.

So one word reply is the ultimate way to be a comvo stopper. 

The next is attitude.

Always speak your one word with mono tone and mildly.

So that the person will not be easily agitated even though he might be frustrated that he can't keep the comvo going.

However, he can't flare up easily if you reply him rly seriously and disinterestedly wif your 1 word reply.

So ultimately, he will probably give up and leave u alone.

This method seems the most effective way that I had come up with for 29years of try and trial.

With that I rly managed to avoid talking to my dad nor needing to waste my energy n time to quarrel with him..

Busy happy working life

These days I had been feeling this way.

Very busy working life

With neverending work task assigned to me

And never ending of staff coming to ask me things submit things for me to process

However, dk for what reason..

My mood still remains happy and motivated to complete all the task assigned to me

At first, I thought this is just something that will pass after few weeks..

However.. this had been ongoing since 3months ago

So I am Abit bizarre currently...

Mayb cos I know what to do for all the tasks assigned to me so I dun feel lost and frustrating

It is jus the amount of work n not the difficulty of the work

This is way I am feeling this way now.

Secondly mayb cos my colleague left

As the things he passed is always messy n missing n last min for new hire and always inform me really last min tml got new hire.

End up Everytime drop bombs to me.

If nt is claims I already processed my side but cos he delay approve then endup all staff complain why so long haven get money.

Really is make my work more transparent as now everything from head to toe is done by me.

And I will noe all the info ahead and plan my work well..

Though alot hell mre workload to handle but at least is not rly messy n last min inform me kind.

I can plan my work.

And thirdly when I am happy despite being so busy these period is cause our company is relocating to a location so much nearer to my home.

I can save half of my original transport time to workplace.

And having a new office though will be much smaller than here..

But these days as I am packing my current hr office..shredding old documents n papers..

My mood rly so gd sia..

Lol!!!

And today is newest news

I heard that the demolish and reconstruction of my current company building will only be completed in 2024.

That means I will be at the location for 3mre years..

Phew .whether the office gd or not.

Anyway we are 50% work frm home now.

Who cares.

I jus want to save my transportation time.

Cab fee also cheaper is I wanna cab home

I think all these rly contribute to my happy n motivated feeling these days

Despite my workload is almost tripled than my past 2years here in this company.

I foresee this will all the way last till dec after I moved over..

Lol.

Busy happy earning money!

Lovers of the red sky

 While everyone nowadays are in love with kdrama Squid Game.

And here is a person in love with another kdrama Lovers of the Red Sky

This type of genre is what I prefer.

Romance drama

But here is not rly a sweet drama or neither is it a comedy..

But had some elements of evil lurking whether humans or non human beings

Which will add on to bitterness and sad moments in this drama..

But had been enjoying it so far..

6 mre eps to go before final and 3 mre wks to wait..

I am currently at the 7th ep..

Total ep is 16..

So this WK I am on office duty.

So I suppose I will be pausing my watching to this weekend. So will air till ep 12..

And I will jus need to wait for 2 mre wks.

Enjoy this drama so far.

Pace is not slow nor fast jus nice.

I hope the 3rd prince won't die cos of his brothers war towards the throne

And lastly ofc hope those minor roles won't die as well..

Hate it when ppl die cos of bad people.

Museum of Ice Cream Singapore

 Meet up wif her...after few months I guess..

Was suppose to be leave taken for 

Fmh bachelorette stayca

Bt the new stricter rules make it impossible.

As social gathering back to 2

So we felt too disappointing to cancel leave

And went out wif ea other today..

Plan a great deal of things to do and places to visit for the day..

Didn't know that given our personalities

We rly folow the original plans and itinerary

And went to all in a day.

My most fave pic of the day

At St George Church

Aplace that seems to be out of Singapore

Though weather is freaking hot but the pic went out rly well

So everything is worth it!

Glad we went there after all it is quite near to the ice cream museum

Tot we will find ice cream museum to be bored and had predict we will come out after an hour at most

But ended up 3 hours inside

I also don't know why so much time is spent inside..

But I like the fact that we didn't spent a single cent inside yet enjoying max

Firstly tickets is free thanks to yh..

Ea ticket prices at $40

And the ice cream is complimentary

I had 10 ice creams..

Lol

My 1 yr worth of ice cream.amt

And and half a time is spent taking photos

Since we know this is the first and last time we are going to be here.

Their sprinkling pool I think is the most highlight part of this museum.

I had most fun though the queue time for this is quite long

But it is worth it!

Then after museum and at George Church..

We cab to golden mile complex for visit to a retro cinema and took a black n white photo over there before heading out to a hawker next to the cinema..

And came across a fish soup store..

That one was the most surprising event today

It has been so long since I ate one which is so delicious after my time in Tuas canteen

I would definitely go back to have it again!

Photo came out pretty but the price paid is almost died of the heat this afternoon lol!!

U can't believe the timing is 4plus when we are taking this photo..

Singapore is rly...hotttt

Went  to toa payoh safra to have a bowling session

Actually we went to bowling session for a total of 5 times..

But those impromptu and unplanned time make it a wasted trip as the bowling floor is always full..

So today was the second lucky time that the centre was quite empty..

Phew..

As we rly walked a long way there.

Had an hour session before walking back to toapayoh at 8pm to have dinner at jack place..

And cab home at almost 10pm..

Tired Maxx..

But it was a well spend day!

Next event I guess will be 20nov fmh big day that we will all meetup tgt!

Another most angry momenti brought 2 honey to giv yh..but endup carrying it all the way in my bag ..up n down whole day..

And back to home tonight wif me..

Totally frgt to past yh at the end of the day..

As her bag is vry small...

So frustrating!!!!

Besides this...everything is perfect!