First NewYearCountdown

Times flies

And it is the last day of 2024 already

Seriously this year rly marks as a very impt turning point in my life.

2023 was a year I came to a conclusion with my close friends 

Distanced yet still friends that holds the most important place in my heart

Walked out of everything and no longer sad or wanting to go back or cry anymore

Become a much more matured adult I feel

Started to accept the most important person in your life might not always be hovering ard u

心里有彼此就好了

你我之间的回忆友情并不会消失

我们只是现在在不同的领域生活着 忙碌着

So starting this year May

Embark on my new journey of making new friends

By downloading dating apps

And matching with different kinds of people 

No matter is girls or boys

Rly in jus May and Jun, literally met up for dinner/lunch dates with 11people?

Some is rly red flag, like tml wanting to marry me straight kind

Or those that is a catfish 

Or those that u know is out of your league kind and u can't be friend with ea other de

So only a few stayed in contact 

But this journey is rly amazing feat fr me

I am an ISTJ

Real introvert 

Never in my life I had thought about 

Using this kind of app

And texting online strangers

Making friends online 

And meeting them in real life

Rly felt the major change in me myself

First meetup was wif a jiejie

And rly thanks to her 

I had a great dinner wif her 

And she rly make me not as nervous to start meeting new ppl frm the app

She is a rly cool, friendly and nice person!

Then nex met up another person

This time round was rly rly nervous as this is a guy

In my life, I rly seldom have guy friends

Most of the opposite gender I talked to is my colleagues

I tend to draw the draw bet guys n me

As I am Abit afraid of talking to guys actually

Like not sure what topic to talk wif them and how to become friends wif them

And what if they start to fall in love wif me,

How am I suppose to reject them?

As I dun wanna get marry at all

Then started meeting more and more people and texting new ppl

The more confident I get in meeting new ppl

So my current bf is also a sweet surprise that came along my way frm the app

We started off frm a normal texting buddies

I rly didn't think of him as my potential date or what at first

I jus felt like he is a funny person and Abit sarcastic at times

But he can be serious also at times and provide me with life values, viewpoints.

We also texted for ard 4mths? And it took 2mths of texting till he asked fr a meetup dinner

Then after first dinner our nex meetup was only the nex mth

So rly think ohya, we are definitely jus friends

If a guy rly wanna date u he confirm will asked u out the following week and not the nex mth de mah

So everytime I meet whoever new, I will also tell him my thoughts n views of those ppl online that I met

Things only started to get romantic 

When I shared a drink wif him and getting infect with sorethroat

He felt guilty that he passed it to me then drive to my office jus to pass me lozenges

So alot up n downs after that. And we jus started officially dating in mid Oct.

So at first didnt expect much and felt like we will end things soon enough

But 1st mth, 2nd mth and now coming to yr end.

Didn't expected to spend my Christmas first time with my bf and now even new year countdown 

This are smth I nv ever thought I will be able to have such memories

So rly felt that since dating him 

I had managed to tick alot of things-to-do on my bucketlist.

Movie date,neoprint date,dinner date, meeting his family, meeting his friends

Cooking tgt, gg sea aquarium tgt, spending Xmas , tgt 跨年

Rly grateful and thankful for all the memories he gave me

Though I have cried fr him a few times cause of my insecurities in love

Bt rly look fwd to my many more first time with him.

Conclusion of Y2024:

Well done cal!

You have managed to grow up and became alil bit stronger and independent and mature this year.

In the new upcoming year of 2025

I hope you will be able to become even more confident in yourself, love yourself more

And trust in yourself more!

Continue to be stronger to be able to stand fr yourself no matter where u are n what u are doing/facing!

I want to thankyou all the nice ppl I met this year

You all rly make my life brighter

Hope the ones that I loved n cared fr be happy n healthy in the upcoming 2025.

 Jan n Feb will be rly busy fr me

Bonus cycles to run

Company DND to attend

SVT Concert to attend

CNY celebrations

Akita trip for my bdae 

Valentine's day

B's bdae

Bye 2024

Hello 2025

Oppa birthday dinner

Went Millenia walk to have dinner at SCBD Korean tofu restaurant 

Bro choose this 

Menu was quite limited

Not one that I would choose to go myself and in future

Their hotplate chicken was too sweet n salty

Not my preference.

Overall ratings I would give is 6/10

Bill came up to be $295 somemre lol!!

Then went to have dessert at marina square betsu smth 

Waffle not fabulous kind

Icecream flavour I would recommend Lavender Hokkaido milk

Another highlight for today

Walk past Love&Co

Saw this necklace that remind me of the one bb got fr me for Christmas 

Then blurt out so pretty

And the nex thing my dad heard and brought me in

And within 15min

Made the bill and the necklace was mine with 9diamonds in a white silver necklace

Cost $499

Lol!

My dad told me was for me advance bdae gift lol

Bt I would prefer the necklace length to be 35 cm

Bt apparently standard shortest length was only 40cm

 Outfit for the day!

2 more days till end of 2024

Make more memories before 2024 ends!

Spend the time with your loved ones 

Saw the news on the jeju air plane crash today

So devastating to see this news esp before yr ends

May they rest in peace.

Condolences to their loved ones.

Homecooked food

So was suppose to have gathering at TMY hse today afternoon

Shunbian intro my bf to wmzyj

Bt apparently so coincidence which I had alr expected

All cmi

Citing reasons like sick, other conflicts in schedules 

So I jus went ahead with the plan to "wfh" that day

But instead at my bf hse

Lol! 

Luckily there is still my bf even though

My long time friends 放了我鸽子

Bt hope after I explain things to him,

My bf won't feel disappointed about the last min cancellation plans

I might be used to it

Bt for him is the first time

I still jokingly told him

My friends like busier than your that uni fren who is Having PhD studies 

Ahahah they waited n planned for 2yrs to finally match a date to go for a wk trip to taiwan for all 3 of them

Mine is jus a 3hrs gathering bt still cmi

Ahahah

Mayb I need to deploy my poly friends instead to meet my bf le.

Though they are all married n with kids

I feel they are more easier available to Jio for a dinner

All desperate to throw their kids to their husband at nite ahahahah

Funny

So had a chance to finally tried dinner cooked by my bf.

Seriously speaking, feels really weird. 4mths ago, we were still texting buddies and chatting about our culinary skills n passion for food

And how we would like to try cooking with our partner one day

And suddenly I am at his kitchen helping him cut vege and enoki mushrooms while he is the main chef

And cooking with all his fam in and tgt dinner wif fam

Totally weird

I don't even do this before wif my own family

Let alone my bf fam

Lol!!

Bt apart from cleanliness n hygiene 

I think his culinary skills passable and food is quite nice!

Rly can learn frm him liao. Or start placing orders on what I wan to eat in future  

Though tdy is wfh bt I 11am alr escape from my home and went to payalebar to find him lunch , did our errands and went his hse 2plus

Then watch drama all the way

While earning money damn shiok~

Well deserved break after all the OT I went through the past yr

This zhichar at payalebar is rly crawling up my fave list yumyum!!

 

Merry Christmas!

Third Christmas Gift received earlier

Most meaningful gift

First Xmas gift frm my bf

Though no twosome dates

As u explained you need to stay home dinner with your family every yr.

Bt still thankful that u gt me this gift waaayyy back on 11nov.

Babo.

Design not my style.

Bt thought that counts

And I am sorry ,b

For my cold plain robotic reaction earlier when u pass me the gift

Helping me open the gift, showing to me, explaining this is Christmas tree inside with C as my initial for my name coincidentally 

And putting it on fr me

While me is like , orh, ok thank you for your necklace.

Cause in my mind I am thinking if only we are outside dating and not at hm with your whole fam tgt.

And my colleagues make things worst

By sharing the photo n videos in our grp chat showing which places they went wif their bf , friend tonight

At Christmas wonderland, Christmas flea mkt, mbs blah blah blah

没有比较就没有伤害

对不起b

因为我刚才真的开心不起来

Tdy Xmas Eve, office half day.

B drop by office fetch me to Nex for lunch at genki sushi and go popular buy his teaching materials

Before gg to his hse to end our night

Christmas lunch with my colleagues on Monday

Zhichar!

Second gift I received frm my sweet temp girl

 

Cried again

Third time I am crying cause of u

Is this right to continue?

Is it wrong to have expectations and hope u will feel it as well?

Tired of this situation n disappointment for the third time.

Steamboat dinner at BF house

 Normally eat out with his whole family, kimly zhichar, soup restaurant.

The other day with his lil bro grabfd order pasta mania

Yesterday was the first time eating with his whole family at home

Steamboat dinner

Feel like cny dinner suddenly

As I first time eat home cook dinner at other ppl house.

And in terms of RS

First time I ate steamboat dinner at BF house and with bf whole family

Lol!

Strange feeling

But definitely will have this kind of experience more n more

That i will be numb to it later on 

First Christmas Gift!

First Christmas gift I received this year!

From an online jiejie that I befriend on CMB

It is really not easy to make friends that can connect well and match with ea other.

Esp through online

Frm total strangers to online texting buddies to real life buddies

Thank you for all her valuable teachings in RS for me.

 Thank you Jiaxin jiejie.

Love the card  she wrote for me totally

Treasure our memories tgt n cheers to our friendship!

 

Updates for 1 to 19Dec

Ytd spent 13hrs tgt my bb

Took leave to go blood donation with him

Came by fetch me to his house then tgt went out wif his dad, mum and lil bro to sgh 

Before tat we went Red Star Chinese Restaurant ate dimsum

First time I ate meal at a restaurant with his family and without my family

Felt rly weird

But first time experience was rly a gd one fr me I feel

Thanks to bb, I get to experience alot of my life's first time 

Eating my leftover sharing a pau, porridge, tea cup

Something that I would only previously do wif my mum.

Then after that went blood donation 

His lil bro, dad and mum waited outside.

So only me n my bf inside

First time doing a gd deed tgt with my bf

Another item strike off in my bucketlist

Like a scene in drama

Then tgt went home, nap tgt awhile

Before we head out run laundry errands and go bishan park meet his second batch of friends (2 of his sec sch friends, Bruce and Sarah)

I feel I can clique with them more than his army friend n his wife

As they are more willing to engage in conversation with me. Fr eg, what u do, I said hr. Then they will continue ask me what is hr, which part u handling

So I can say alot more.

Nt like his army friends, they are more interested in talking Abt themselves and not finding out Abt me

Then how am I suppose to continue or start the Convo with them wor.

Awwkards

Bt still they are my bf's closest friend n bro

So I will still be willing to meet up with them la

 Back to the dinner ytd.

So they was talking Abt their gift exchange with the theme of toxic nex wk

Cause one of his friend still have buy anything and need recommendations 

So he say labubu la

Then he say my gf also have mah

I totally roll eyes sia.

How long is he gg to say Abt that labubu alamak

My n JJ was like in the past le.

Then he say someone give my gf de lo

Rly is a 醋王

So had my first unhappiness with my bf on last Friday. 13 Dec was our 2nd monthsary

Even though I said there isn't a need for celebration

Bt I was actually expecting him to at least acknowledge like hey b! We tgt for 2mths liao ley~ happy 2nd mthsary!

Bt he like nv say anything and to make things worst.

Ok let me explain the back drop of the story Abit 

So we met last wed for dinner

As my training was at payalebar

So near his hse, he said he will come find me dinner

So we set to meet at 7pm way before

Bt when it was 3pm he text me saying he might leave his armycamp late and if too late he might not be able to meet me dinner le

So for the first time I am Abit sad that I cannot meet him

Was actually looking fwd to see his face that day de.

And I even dress up prettily

So I jus replied him it's ok la. As I know he is caught up in his army camp affairs no purposely de mah.

Then 5pm he text me saying he can meet me

So I was rly happy.

Then endup he came , I can see he is visibly tired. So I can't bear to see him like that.

So I said nex time u rly tired jus tell me, we can meet other days.

Then he said he wants to see me mah.

Then I also say out my honest feelings la

Frankly speaking, I also felt abit disappointed when u at first say u might nt be able to meet me.

Then when after that u said can meet me, I was rly happy. And now I also see u le. u don't need send me home le. Faster go home slp.

So he hesitate Abit and say how u go hm frm here.

I said here got mrt then I take circle line bishan and vry fast home de.

Then he pause awhile

Before he can reply, I said ok I go hm myself. U go hm yourself case closed bye!

Then he smile Abit and said ok then u ownself go hm. Ltr text me when u reach hm.

So even though I felt abit sad la. As k had actually wanted him to stay longer wif me

Bt I feel he is rly soulless liao.

So I ask him when we meeting the nex time round? Then he said sat but mayb cannot as he need go back camp. In the morning

So he lmk agn.

So I was thinking wasn't every Friday our official date day? Mayb he busy on that day

So I didn't think much 

End up Fri he noon alr left army camp and go his home with his army friends and play mahjong and at nite game wif his frens

He still can text me all this 

That's when I flareup 

And say u alot friends de mah

Tgt play mahjong play game

Fri no meet me, sat no meet me sun also no meet me

Then he still dk I annoyed and reply

Then u shld learn how to play mahjong n game then nex time we tgt play.

Then I said u go on play wif them lo. I am not gg text u tonite le since u so bz

Then normally when I leave office. Reach hm, slp I will text him de

Last Fri, no text at all. Till he 2300 bth then he text me reached home? I jus replied yes. Gdnite 

Then he nv say much and tell me ok b, tml see I 10am gg back camp

Then end up afternoon he come fetch me to his house.

Then I jus wait him settle down

Change out of his army uniform and go bath

Then I confront him

U know ytd I am unhappy wif u mah

Then he said yes

Then I said u know why?

He silent

Then I said ytd was our 2nd tgt, someone nv say anything and whole day busy playing with his army friends

Blah blah blah

So he jus kept saying sorry and explain himself la. Then we reconcile 

So I shall observe the nex upcoming13th 

What is his performance.

Srsly.

So last sat we went decathlon at kallang

To shop fr our winter things for our Akita trip

Then his parents n elder bro overseas 

So only we 2 n his lil bro at hm dinner tgt.

Feel more n more at ease with his house and his parents n lil bro liao. 4th? Time seeing them le

After I came back frm my Tokyo trip, I gain 2 kg

And finally managed to hit back down to 44kg ytd morning

And almost make me cannot donate blood as min weight to donate blood is 45kg

Lol!!

I didn't consider this when I went to donate in the past.

Frgt I am now underweight le

Ahahahha

Thanks to the vry full dimsum meal earlier and my heavy jeans on me

I managed to weight 45.8kg and proceed to donate my blood successfully 

Back track Abit

Last Friday 13th

Can't believe fmh n tmy, actually make their way down to Alexandra Ikea my workplace here to lunch wif me

Rly amazing feat!

They were the last person then I will expect to come over my workplace look fr me

Shunbian give them both a belated n advance bdae treat at Common Man cafe.

Food was great as usual.